Therapist reveals her number one parenting tip inspired by dogs – but you have to start young and quit once they become teens
- A therapist of 15 years has revealed why we should act like dogs with out kids
- Dr Eli Harwood said she learned her best parenting tip from her own dog
- She wants parents to act like a dog when their owner steps into the room
- Excited, amazed and full of love every time – this makes kids feel ‘delightful’
A family therapist has revealed her number one tip on parenting and claims she didn’t learn it in grad school or during her 15 years on the job – but from her dog.
Speaking to her followers on Instagram ‘The Attachment Nerd’ Dr Eli Harwood said the parenting style needs to be initiated when kids are young – and stopped by the time they are teens.
‘You know that thing they do (dogs) when you come home. Actually they do it when you walk in the room,’ she said.
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She then demonstrated by shaking and bouncing like an excited dog saying ‘I love you’ over and over.
‘Do that, with your kids when they are young. When they enter the room you light up,’ she said.
‘This makes your children feel delightful,’ she explained.
‘When we feel delightful we feel worthy and we feel confident and we don’t get stuck on as many of the parts of ourselves that are imperfect because we know we belong,’ she said.
But the trick is you have to ‘do it while they are young’.
‘Because when they become teenagers they turn into cats,’ she said.
‘You can’t be a dog anymore with a teenager because you scare the cat away,’ she added.
Hundreds loved the mum-of-three’s simple explanation and rule for parenting.
‘Love, love, love. My children are grown now, I will do it anyway. I wish I had have heard this when they were little, boy I love my kids,’ said another.
‘This! My mother used to yell at me first thing when I r she walked through the door. I still get anxiety spikes when I hear doors slam or people swear or yell while in another room,’ said one woman.
Speaking to her followers on Instagram ‘The Attachment Nerd’ Dr Eli Harwood said the parenting style needs to be initiated when kids are young – and stopped by the time they are teens
‘Your content always goes straight to my heart and you say it in such and understandable way,’ said another.
Some parents already practice the method.
‘I’m not a morning person and can be quite grumpy but I have made a point in the last year or so to always say ‘good morning sunshine’ whenever I first see my four-year-old. His little face lights up you can tell he feels delightful,’ one mum said.
‘I did that to my kids. When they came home from school they would run in because they got hugs and a dance party,’ said another.
One woman asked if nine was ‘still young enough’ to use the trick to which the therapist agreed it was.
Another asked ‘so what do you do once they turn into cats’?
A follower replied: ‘Feed them lots of snacks and don’t wake them from their naps.’
Others said that you have to wait for them to approach you and then you have to stop what you are doing and give them your full attention and love.
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