I fancy male Hollywood actor and look at gay porn but love my wife

DEAR DEIDRE: HAVE I missed out by never being intimate with a man?

I am a man myself, 44, and have always fancied women and really enjoyed sex with them.


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Before my wife, I had slept with at least 40 other women. But recently I’ve started to look at men in a different way.

It started with actor Ryan Reynolds, who is in a Netflix series I like. I caught myself fancying him as I watched.

I wanted to see if it was just him I was attracted to, so I looked at some gay porn online. Within moments, I was aroused.

The next time I had sex with my wife, I was struggling to get aroused.
What helped was picturing myself with another man.

Now I’m wondering if I’m gay.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It is not uncommon for people to be attracted to those of the same sex at some point in their lives.

This does not necessarily make you gay. I’m sending my support packs Bisexual and Gay Questions to help you think this through.

It may also help you to talk through your feelings. Experts from Switchboard LGBT+ (switchboard.lgbt) can listen to you and offer support.

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