Vanessa Feltz's ex-fiancé Ben Ofoedu has broken his silence on the pair's split, confirming the rumours that it was due to Vanessa discovering the sexts he had sent to a fan.
The musician has also revealed that since being kicked out of the former couple's home, he has been left homeless and forced to stay with a friend from church.
Since the split, Ben, 50, says that he has been doing a lot of soul-searching, telling The Sunday Mirror: "I don’t know why I did it. Someone will tell me one day. I’m still processing it. It’s still fresh.
"I should have got some help after the first dalliance. I knew there was an insecurity. But I papered over the cracks and if you don’t tackle something it reared its head. I cheated because I was insecure."
Opening up about the split, Ben also revealed that the sexting wasn't his first bout of infidelity, and that he had slept with another woman three times in 2015.
Ben met the anonymous woman while performing in Ibiza with his band Phats and Small, but quickly called the relationship off after their three dalliances.
The woman, who had wanted to continue the relationship, then contacted Vanessa eight months later revealing Ben's affair.
At the time, Ben said he moved out of the couple's home for a while but that Vanessa ultimate forgave him.
However in 2022 Ben struck up a friendship with a fan on Instagram, which started off innocently enough, but quickly became X-rated after she began to send nudes.
Vanessa then discovered Ben's sexting on Christmas Day 2022, and was soon hit with another blow, when she was contacted by another Phats and Small fan.
The second fan, who had attended a gig in Butlins late last year, revealed that Ben had made sexually suggestive comments towards her.
This proved to be the last straw for Vanessa, who then kicked Ben out of their £3.5million north London home.
OK! has contacted Vanessa for comment.
Discussing the split, Ben said: "So many people have been hurt, not just Vanessa. I was so close to her grandchildren, her daughters, their husbands. We’re a close knit family. My family have been appalled by it as well. There’s been a lot of pain."
He added that after kicking him out, Vanessa stopped answering his calls and emails, and has blocked him on all social media.
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